If You Have The Right To Voice Your Opinion, I Do Too

[disbelief11]

A note to all the people I know who are uncomfortable with their own sexuality and downright squeamish about kinks, fetishes, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc.:

Sure, you have the right to have an opinion. You even have the right to voice your opinion. I'd rather not hear your opinion but them's the breaks.

You know what? I think you're wrong, and every time you utter an incredulous "Ewww!" or "Gross! That's disgusting!", I want to smack you upside the head. Usually I'm too busy stopping myself from actually doing that to respond in a coherent manner with my opinion, so here it is - listen up.

Sex is not "gross." It can be messy and smelly and, when looked at individually, parts of our bodies can be fairly funny looking. But that doesn't make it gross at all. If you hate your body so much that the thought of another person even looking at those funny, messy, smelly parts makes you ill, then that is something you have to work through on your own. But let me tell you, you're missing out on exploring, enjoying, and worshiping other people's parts and having them do the same with you.

Just because you're uncomfortable with yourself doesn't mean that what other people do is "disgusting." Try to cultivate some acceptance of other people, or at least the ability to weather a situation without passing judgement. And yes, the squirming in your chair and outraged expression on your slack-jawed face (how do you manage both of those at once?) does count as passing judgement, even if you don't say anything out loud.

Lastly, don't look to me to validate your opinions. I don't agree with you. I'm not ever going to agree with you, in fact. That should be okay.

Next time I will say these things to your face, coherently or not. And I promise not to smack you upside the head either, no matter how much I may want to do that.

Comments

[spasticat.livejournal.com]

My friend Troggi was just talking about this. Seems she found this one person ranting with much vitriol (fave word of the month) about one of her fave kinks.

On a "Let's cheer ya up" note...funniest body part for me has to be a guy's balls. Soft, squishy and kinda cartoonish looking. They're tied (hee hee) with that dangly bit at the back of our throats.

So...chin up little buckaroo!

[nerodi.livejournal.com]

Nicely ranted, Dis. And I'm muy curiouso as to what brought this on!!

As far as I go, heh, who the hell am I to judge anybody else's kinks!!! (Although there *are* certain things that do make me laugh. Very, very hard. --- Okay, I'm picturing them now and laughing!!!!)

[mei-x.livejournal.com]

Like nerodi, I'm also curious as to what brought all this on. Anyway, I agree that while it is natural to have an opinion, it's not necessary to denigrate stuff just because it doesn't float one's boat.

[anathema666.livejournal.com]

You go, girl! Tonguelash away!!!!

*smooch*

I'm with the other people who have posted; I wonder what happened to spur this post on (not that it was unnecessary). :D

[wubba.livejournal.com]

Word, Dis.

Ooob!

[rivier.livejournal.com]

::eyeing up her own especial little non-con kink in a nervous, self-conscious way::

Remeber, I'm *delicate* right now. If it's me, beat me gently!

...whaddya mean it's not all about ME?

[bulletproofmonk.livejournal.com]

I couldn't agree more with your statement, Disbelief. It's always for the best to keep an open mind when it comes to sexuality. A healthy interest in the human body and how it works sexually is a good thing, particularly when you take into consideration that you could lose, say, a class ring, if you don't know what you're doing. ;)