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A note to all the people I know who are uncomfortable with their own sexuality and downright squeamish about kinks, fetishes, homosexuality, bisexuality, etc.:
Sure, you have the right to have an opinion. You even have the right to voice your opinion. I'd rather not hear your opinion but them's the breaks.
You know what? I think you're wrong, and every time you utter an incredulous "Ewww!" or "Gross! That's disgusting!", I want to smack you upside the head. Usually I'm too busy stopping myself from actually doing that to respond in a coherent manner with my opinion, so here it is - listen up.
Sex is not "gross." It can be messy and smelly and, when looked at individually, parts of our bodies can be fairly funny looking. But that doesn't make it gross at all. If you hate your body so much that the thought of another person even looking at those funny, messy, smelly parts makes you ill, then that is something you have to work through on your own. But let me tell you, you're missing out on exploring, enjoying, and worshiping other people's parts and having them do the same with you.
Just because you're uncomfortable with yourself doesn't mean that what other people do is "disgusting." Try to cultivate some acceptance of other people, or at least the ability to weather a situation without passing judgement. And yes, the squirming in your chair and outraged expression on your slack-jawed face (how do you manage both of those at once?) does count as passing judgement, even if you don't say anything out loud.
Lastly, don't look to me to validate your opinions. I don't agree with you. I'm not ever going to agree with you, in fact. That should be okay.
Next time I will say these things to your face, coherently or not. And I promise not to smack you upside the head either, no matter how much I may want to do that.
Sure, you have the right to have an opinion. You even have the right to voice your opinion. I'd rather not hear your opinion but them's the breaks.
You know what? I think you're wrong, and every time you utter an incredulous "Ewww!" or "Gross! That's disgusting!", I want to smack you upside the head. Usually I'm too busy stopping myself from actually doing that to respond in a coherent manner with my opinion, so here it is - listen up.
Sex is not "gross." It can be messy and smelly and, when looked at individually, parts of our bodies can be fairly funny looking. But that doesn't make it gross at all. If you hate your body so much that the thought of another person even looking at those funny, messy, smelly parts makes you ill, then that is something you have to work through on your own. But let me tell you, you're missing out on exploring, enjoying, and worshiping other people's parts and having them do the same with you.
Just because you're uncomfortable with yourself doesn't mean that what other people do is "disgusting." Try to cultivate some acceptance of other people, or at least the ability to weather a situation without passing judgement. And yes, the squirming in your chair and outraged expression on your slack-jawed face (how do you manage both of those at once?) does count as passing judgement, even if you don't say anything out loud.
Lastly, don't look to me to validate your opinions. I don't agree with you. I'm not ever going to agree with you, in fact. That should be okay.
Next time I will say these things to your face, coherently or not. And I promise not to smack you upside the head either, no matter how much I may want to do that.
